blog post 7

              This week we talked about sexual intimacy in marriage. We talked how important it is to have a healthy sexual life with you partner.  We talked about this indication of overall how the marriage is going. We then talked about something for me that got me thinking. Growing up my 16 year old brother got a girl pregnant. Growing up where I did there was judgement, this for made  me feel that our family would always be known as the family with the kid that got a girl pregnant at  16 . My brother then went crazy and my parent were forced to either take care of my niece part of the week. I was 14, I felt like my brother didn’t understand what he did.  While she is one of the best things in our family. I still wish that it didn’t happen, I felt that all the attention that I should have gotten disappeared when it happened and I was left to do what I had to do without as much help as I would have gotten if it wasn’t for my brother. My parents made time for me and my younger brother, but it always felt like they had other things on their mind My niece doesn’t live with us anymore during the week she now lives with her mom. My little brother ward is very popularly with the adults in our ward and when you asked about the Adam family you will hear all about  the 17 year old and what a great kid he is. Seeing my older brother do what he did it made me promised myself I would wait and have kids until it was at the right time. Just like marriage sexual intimacy needs to be a sacred thing. We talked about how kids learn about sexual intimacy.  There are friends you learn it form, the maturation you learn in school.  For me I started early so my mom sat me down and we had the talk.  But things have gotten even more complicated since my days. Kids have to worry about different types of gender, Like transgender, homosexuality, and the list goes on. We live in a time were we have to be super sensitive and teach our kids to be the same way.  While I feel for those does this make the kids that are confused not as important because they have it figure out? We then discussed how important it is to have the talk with your children then you control what they know and can make it appropriate for them. All children should know about sexual intimacy to they can know when something is not right and so they know they need to say something. We also discussed that sometimes people will have the history of intimacy already in marriage. Even if they don’t know the history and they can be wonderful partners.  It all about finding a partner that can be successful and you both know that you love each other and want to spend your lives together.  I can only hope that one day I will get the experience of marriage and have someone that I love for who they are and that they will love me for who I am.  This class has taught me so many things I love learning new things every week 5.5.