blog post 8

              This week in class we talked about family stresses and crisis and what and how these effect families. We talked about how some family  crisis brings family closer together and some cause rifts. We talked about how little things in a crisis can cause big rifts, Simple things such as commutation issues, decision making without certain people there. There are so many more the circumstances can make it better or worse. We talked about how in the LDS culture when something happens to a family everyone gathers around them to help. In our family we don’t really get closer when bad things happen we simple just deal with the issue. In class we talked about family dynamics systems plays a role when family have things happen. Going up to school you gain a family with your roommates.  I know we read about coping striges, one of my biggest one is my diet coke habit.  I love my deit coke if I am worried, stressed or need to do homework I will get a diet coke. Because of recent events I decied that I needed to change this habit. So my roommate has held me accountable and so has my old FHE brother.  It has only be 3 days and I have not enjoyed it. I miss my diet coke so much, but I am trying out new coping stragies.  I have learned that I go to the immediate comfort and that is my deit coke.  I have now started having a bath when I think I am over stressed. I have also am starting to recognize that certain things cause me stress one thing is this blog post and getting it done on time. So I do it a day or so in advance then it is done and I don’t have to worry about it later. Another thing is our apartment kitchen and making sure that I pitch in and help. So me just emptying the dish washer at least once and week has helped that feeling. When I am home we all have are different ways of coping with things. My mom takes baths, My dad drinks deit coke, and my little bother plays his phone. We all have are different ways of dealing with stress. As a family when it is something that stresses us all out, we just do what needs to get done.  The only major thing that has happen in our house was when my 16 year old brother had his daughter but, we  as kids adjusted and did what we had to do so that mom and dad could help my brother.  But it made it that I got to show my parents my ability to have reasonability and show them that I was growing up so they gain more trust in me.  As an adult know I am still learning how do deal with my stress and frustration but, this might be something that all humans work on through out life. Because there will always be that thing that drives you nuts.  I am working on how to love a roommate even if I get frustrated at, sometimes it takes a bath, or a nap. In taking this class it all goes back to how we care and take care of each other. People are all different we just have to learn to get along in our different ways.