blog post 9

This week we talked about conflict resolution.  We talked about how to have effective communication between husbands and wives, brothers and sisters, roommates even at school.   We talked about steps to take to get along, one of them was the disarming technique. This technique is used when frustrated or angry, putting down the harmful words and phrases, and how we talk and just listen and try to understand the other person. I loved this I found this quite good. The next one was empathy and what that truly means to have empathy for a person. We talked about thought empathy and feeling Empathy.  Though feeling is restating how the other person words, Feeling Empathy this is the acknowledge of how the person is feeling based on what they said. The next thing is the I Feel Statement. This statment is saying how you feel but with proper words. The person tries finding something positive to say, show a sign of respect to the other person. He then went on to talk about how it is also praying and receiving answers. I have a hard time with this, I hear that if I find an answer to this problem by praying or I know what to do because I prayed about it. I feel like on of the young adults that aren’t understanding, how to.  It seems everyone understands this but me.  A couple weeks ago I needed a blessing so my roommate got our old fhe brothers. I felt something, I cant describe the happiness and peace for that moment it was calming feeling.  This moment has been in my head snice. So when I am angry or frustrated I think about that calming feeling and it helps me do the effective commutation steps.  I am still working on getting it down to the point that I use it ever time but right now I use it about 50 percent of the time. My roommates have started using it to, some of use have a hard time communicating with one another so using the steps helps us to communicate better with one another when we are frustrated.   I have learned many things about myself this semester about how I act when I am angry or frustrated I have learned when I need to express’s what I am feeling my roommate I have lived with before have grown closer with this semester we have learned more about each other, we have learned when the other one has had a bad day or when one of us is off.  I have learned that you do not have to like everyone, but you do have to respect that they are human beings and give them that.  I have learned what sets me off and before it gets the chance I get up and leave. I have one roommate who rubs me the wrong way. I have learned that one we grew up different her parents are much different then mine. Two we just have different ways of approaching everything. We are just different in every way.  Because I understand what and why she makes me angry I can take steps to stop myself form being mean or hurtful with my comments. I have learned practice with her that I did not have before. My roommate says it because I am not drinking as much caffeine. I think it is because I am learning how to now not let her bug me as much. I learned that sometimes it you that needs to change not the other person because sometimes the other person does not know how to change. ffff